It is interesting to note that more and more groups are “popping” up, that have something to do with deep thinking and connections. This is of interest to me as it is obviously a need in our human psych to reconnect with others on physical level, and actual be more personal in our high technology driven world.
Today we discussed the wounded healer and what that actually means.
Counseling being an unregulated industry in Australia so far, can at times make it difficult to choose the right one. Particular if you are unaware of this aspect.
SO as with many healing professions it would draw people from several backgrounds into being a counselor, and it might even be that the person initially being counseled decides that it would be great to be a counselor. As is often the case in this type of job it would draw people most likely with an emotional wounded past.
A term that is used in psychology is “The wounded Healer” which basically in nutshell says that the person who has been emotionally scared in his or her life would possible make for better “healer” as they can empathise more with the person going through a similar scenario, rather than sympathise. The wounded healer only becomes able to heal and help others (which is to simultaneously be healing and helping him/herself again and again in the form of seeming “others”), when instead of being resentful, bitter and feeling victimized by their wound, he or she recognizes their wound as a numinous event.
But also there are many “dangers” lurking around the wounded. Because how do you know you are no longer wounded? And what makes you as the person the “expert”on the knowing? Even, if on paper you went through a similar scenario such as maybe depression; that depression is still an individual experience, brought on by individual circumstance.
Still, I guess if you been in that big black hole where the walls are so slippery there really is no light at the end of the tunnel that people speak about, you could in fact be quite a support to someone who goes through that similar state of being.
When I went through my postnatal depression I had no idea what was wrong with me, but all I wanted to do was cry and saw no purpose in living, I made some terrible decisions that had long lasting ramifications on my close relationships, but I understand that plight of a new mum who feels totally overwhelmed with her new responsibilities and little help around. So with that wound I have now healed, it helps me to “understand” other mothers who are going through PND.
So in this case scenario if my wound was not healed and I was to counsel someone who was going through postnatal depression, I than would use those sessions healing myself, and talk about my pain and emotions, and leaving the person who came in for counseling in the first place, bewildered, and possible not in a good state at all.
My life has certainly been an interesting journey, like everyone’s really. We all go through wounding and hopefully healing and this is what makes us the person we are today.
The choices are ours what we do with this wounds.
Now I am very humbled by the experience of facilitating these groups. What started of as something small, is taking on its own life entity, and as the group grows its members there will be other challenges to face and other topics to discuss.
The group is evolving into a more social group as well, as people are making connections, and friendships are formed. It is also a group that is respectful and supports and explores other people’s ideas and thoughts.
And as someone quite rightly pointed out, I am grateful that I live in a society where I am able to indulge myself in healing my wounds and my day to day existence is not just about the physical survival.
But also where we can drink some great coffee.
SO if you would like to join us and you are in Perth,
here is the link:
To book a private session http://www.philosophycafe.com.au/